I went on a first date with a guy, he seemed nice enough so I met up with him again. We were sitting in my flat, drinking wine and he suddenly said, 'Oh, so do you not want kids?'
Being asked about children constantly made me feel like an animal, that I'm only valued for being a female with reproductive organs.
Small talk is the oil of social interaction, it is a vehicle of engagement. People have it intuitively, that's emotional intelligence. When you first meet someone, you are getting used to them.
One of the many reasons that the gender pay gap persists is that there's still an expectation that women will bear the brunt of childcare.
This is why the issue of when and whether to have children is still so thorny.