At least some of what he said turned out to be true: I was
destined to be alone, at least for a few years. I needed every single second of that time to work through what had happened, to understand the part I played in it and — hopefully — be able to work towards a more positive future. According to Ammanda Major, a relationship counsellor, sex therapist and head of clinical practice at Relate
, there is no fixed time for healing from abuse and recovery looks different for everyone. "For some people, going into a new relationship can be part of the healing process," she explains. "For others, taking the time to self-heal is important."