I think it's pretty common to have seen a woman accept disrespect or worse in order to be with a man who, objectively, is not worth her time. I was attempting to get inside that dynamic and try to show how it can happen.
The impulse to shape yourself in some way for the person you desire – especially when you first meet them – is universal, regardless of sexual orientation or gender. It is something I felt when I was performing straightness and once I was out. But the gendered power dynamics at play when you're a woman who dates men can exacerbate the forms these impulses take.