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I explained my behavior.
"Commonly, ticks are stress based," she said. "Perhaps in certain situations, you feel stressed and turn to winking, instead of tapping on the table or other idiosyncrasies people might exhibit when they're stressed."
Might I be trying to assert power?
"That would typically be an intentional kind of wink, one that's within your control."
Perhaps, it's a subconscious mimicry?
"It's very common to pick up behavior from people we admire. But, with bad behavior, there's usually something else going on."
Well, I usually do it while apologizing.
"Some, both men and women, think apologizing is weak. More often, it's men, but women are beginning to think that as well. Certainly, if people don't want to be apologizing, and still they're doing it out of habit, that could be stressful, and then the wink could be what comes with the apology."
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