1. Mix It Up In The Grooming — Or Wardrobe — Department
In life, many women do not feel inclined to have perfectly pruned nether regions or dress up in complicated lingerie to have fun. But, every once in a while, it can be fun to "style" your nether regions in a different way (maybe not a lightning bolt, but you know, a landing strip can be fun), or slip into some figure-flatting strappy garb (like the Agent Provocateur number featured here). By no means are any of us required to aim to look Stepford-perfect in the bedroom — in fact, we think there's lots of sex appeal in imperfection. However, at the same time, mixing up your appearance can be liberating, and a total turn-on.
2. Try Stimulation From Multiple Angles — Whether Performing Or Receiving
Some women enjoy giving (and receiving) oral sex, some don't; that's totally cool. But, if you're in the former camp, a little extra simulation can really enhance the experience. Find out where else your partner enjoys being stimulated (besides, you know, the obvious) and hit that up during the act. Likewise, let your partner know exactly how you want it, for a whole new dimension of pleasure — even a move as innocuous as some quality neck kissing can be enough to take foreplay from obligatory appetizer to scintillating main course.
3. Fear Not The Back Door
Seriously, if you haven't tried it, there's no time like the present. There is a whole range of back-door stimulation, and some men and women enjoy different degrees — but it's worth it to find out where you stand on the spectrum. Trust us.
4. Bring In Vibrators Or Toys To Get Yours (And Enjoy Together)
Toys (especially vibrators) are easy to use, fun for both sexes, and not especially scandalous or complicated to use. Handheld vibrators — or even dual-pleasing vibrating rings — are an awesome way to spice things up.
5. Take Role-Playing Seriously
No, we're not necessarily talking costumes or getting busy in an actual classroom or doctor's office, obviously, but give yourself permission to really get into it the next time you and your parter play "student and professor" (or whatever roles you're into). No, you might not win Oscars, but disappearing for a bit into a fantasy situation can be surprisingly freeing.
7. Try Some Different Positions — And Speak Up
When it comes to sex positions, don't knock it 'til you've tried it — and don't be afraid of telling your partner to position themselves in the exact way that you need for it to work for you. (Hey, being ordered around can be fun!) If you need a little inspiration, the classic Position Of The Day is handy to have by the bedside table.
7. Pain Can Be Pleasure — If That's What You're Into
In the porno world, fantasies and fetishes can run freely — almost to the point where if the video doesn't have a hint of kink, well, yawn. In the real world, however, many of us worry about sharing more scandalous preferences, whether that be for pain, being dominated, or a well-pedicured foot. Especially if you're in a committed relationship, go ahead and take that step towards kinkville — you may find that you're more satisfied than ever before.
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