Best Gay Dating Apps For Lesbian, Bi & Queer Women 2023

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In today’s world of romance and hookups, just about everyone is using online dating apps to find connections, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. However, even though dating apps are very much the norm now, it can still feel as though most are designed with straight people in mind. All that said, there are still good dating app options for queer women and non-binary people out there.

Even on popular apps used by queer people, there is still often a heteronormative lens. By its very premise, which requires the woman in a match to send the first message, Bumble assumes that its users are straight. And as a lesbian woman who's spent a fair amount of time on both Tinder and OkCupid, I can tell you that the apps aren't always great at weeding out men who don't belong (sorry for the immediate swipe left, Scott, Todd, and John, but I don't know how you got here).

Of course, that doesn't mean that queer women have to stick to meeting a new love interest in lesbian or queer bars. In fact, I met my current girlfriend on a dating app, so I can 100% confirm that it's possible. All it takes is knowing the best ones to download and how to work with them. And the good news is that dating apps, in general, have come a long way in providing more safe and flourishing spaces for queer communities.

Ahead, we've rounded up some of the best apps for queer women and non-binary people looking for love or hookups online.

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