What To Do Before Sex, Rituals For Women Sexuality

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Imagine that you're spending some quality time alone with your S.O., and things start to heat up. The plan is clearly to have sex, but before the clothes come off, what do you do? Do you run to the bathroom, make sure the kids are asleep, or just get down to business? A surprising number of people have what could be described as a pre-sex ritual — something they always do right before doing the deed — and we've rounded up 30 of them here.

After asking R29 readers and consulting the people of Reddit, it turns out there's quite a bit of variety. Some pre-sex rituals are totally utilitarian, like making sure you pee beforehand so you don't get the urge to go mid-coitus. Others are purely for peace of mind: One person said she makes sure her ponytail is tight and secure.

Across the board, we found all of these enlightening — and they gave us a few ideas about how to tweak our own rituals. Whether you do anything to prepare yourself for sex or not, you just might find something here inspiring.

Click through to discover what people really do before sex, and share your own rituals in comments.

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