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It’s not just the Times. Everywhere you look, Bacall obituaries are rife with references to Bogie in both headlines and first paragraphs, as though their marriage were as or more important than her 70-year-long career. Many also took the time to opine on her affair with Sinatra. And, I get it. Bacall’s most iconic scene and her rise to fame owe much to Bogart and their dual mythos, starting with, you know, that scene, from in To Have and To Have Not (1944).
"You know how to whistle, don't you Steve? You just put your lips together, and blow."
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So, if Bacall was actively resisting being pegged as “Mrs. Bogart,” in our ostensibly occasionally feminist media landscape, why has her identity remained so tied to his? After all, she earned an Academy Award, two Golden Globes, two Tonys, and a National Book Award in a thriving career — all after he had passed away. Yet this week she almost seemed frozen in time,
tethered to the public's investment in her love affair with him.