The Real Truth Behind Sex Myths

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If sex were a board game, the how-to handbook would be some five billion pages long — with different rules dictated by and for each individual player, and a new set of rules each round. Good luck.

Despite the bevy of "do this, not that" sex-advice pieces out there, it's safe to say that some things society has taught us are just plain wrong. Ahead, Emily Nagoski, author of the book Come As You Are, squashes some age-old myths about getting it on.

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