Your Breath Can Be Like Natural Xanax
“Put both feet flat on the floor (or mat or bed if you’re lying down). Sense their weight, temperature, pressure on surfaces, and the feel of clothing; as well as your skin, pulse, and muscles. Breathe slowly in through your nose — count to five, letting your lungs fill as deeply as you can — and out through your mouth, pursing your lips slightly to make a soft sound, to a count of seven or longer, pulling your belly button gently in towards your spine. This lets your lungs empty completely, then fill completely with air. Repeat sequence till you yawn and feel very relaxed.”
Try The Swiss Cheese Technique
“If you’re feeling overwhelmed with a task or situation, pick one small portion of it that you can do something about right now. Do it. Then take the next bite-size piece and focus on it. Same goes for worries about the future — ‘One day at a time’ is sage advice. When you find yourself thinking again about the big generalized, unmanageable thing, say to yourself, ‘Thinking’ and return your attention to your next outbreath, saying, ‘Out.’ Do this over and over again until you relax.”
Read When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within
“It’s a great antidote for anxiety as well as anger. Both are highly stressful when chronic, and neither gets you what you really need. (Exception: there’s a clean anger that can give you the oomph to stand up for yourself when needed.) This book shows you how to replace “shoulds” and “blamer” thoughts with strategies that actually work. Easy to read, packed with interesting examples.”
Melt Your Inner Critic
“That negative voice in your head can be a major source of depression, anxiety, and botched relationships, work and personal. The IC is trying its best to help you avoid pain and live well, but its strategies often have the opposite effect. Start by writing down what it says to you (usually some version of “You’re not good enough!” “You’re going out in that?!” “There you go messing up again” or some such).”
Exercise And Get To Know Mother Nature
“Gentle, fun exercise and even a breath of fresh air from a quick walk can do the trick. Research shows that both really do lift your mood and relax you almost immediately.”