The 17 Best Lesbian & Queer Sex Toys, According To Real Reviewers

Finding the perfect sex toy as a queer person can be tricky, let alone finding the ideal couple’s sex toy — and even more so if you both have vaginas. “For consumers that exist outside the margins... Queer, trans, gender non-conforming, intersex and/or with disabilities — it’s almost impossible to find sex toys that cater to their communities and identities,” Model View Culture pointed out in an essay, and we couldn’t help but agree.

When I embarked on my first WLW relationship and went to search for “queer sex toys for women,” I was shocked by the sparse results. It shouldn’t have been surprising, given how the booming sexual wellness industry has long catered to the heterosexual cis binary. Still, I was disappointed by the array of dildos, which were extremely phallic-looking (for many people, including me, this can be triggering or unwanted). Not to mention, the strap-ons and harnesses were mostly small, tapered, and specifically for pegging, rather than vaginal penetration. There also were limited couples’ sex toy options for women who preferred no penetration at all. Being in a queer relationship in today’s political landscape is hard enough; finding your way to great sex shouldn’t be another unnecessary barrier.

In order to help you (and me, to be honest), I went digging through all the queerest corners of online sex shops to find the best-of-the-best sex toys that are made for (and in a lot of cases, by!) queer women. From oral sex toys to whisper-quiet vibrators to a one-of-a-kind scissoring sex toy, this list has everything you could ever want or need to stock your sapphic sex stash and queer-friendly cabinet of horny curiosities. Full disclosure, most of our results were found by searching with the less-inclusive term “lesbian sex toys,” but we want to acknowledge that we know the WLW umbrella includes a vast span of sexualities and genders, and this list is for them, too. Ahead, keep reading for the best lesbian sex toys out there (and beyond), according to the queer women who love them.