Bea Arthur, Licensed Mental Health Counselor
Just because he doesn’t want to be an attorney doesn’t mean he’s not ambitious. Maybe Michelle rolled her eyes when Barack first said he wanted to be President, but she supported him for years anyway, and look at how well that paid off! It sounds like you hold yourself and those close to you to a high standard, so while it’s wrong that he lied to you, I can get a sense for why he did. Honesty is the best policy, and trust is a requirement for any relationship. In this case, however, it sounds like his intention wasn't to deceive you, but to please you. He's probably aware of your expectations, and you sound like the kind of girl who knows exactly what she wants — and isn’t afraid to show it. You should never apologize for this, but your boyfriend might have been afraid to show you a part of his personality he knew you’d disapprove of.
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